Single and divorced Christians should embrace their freedom. There may never be another time in your life just like this. And what a shame it would be if you allow feelings of regret, guilt, sorrow or loneliness to steal these special moments of your life.
Being a divorced or single Christian may be the last thing you want to be right now – trust me, I understand, I’ve been there. But being a Christian who has the freedom to serve God, in any way He leads you, is something you should embrace and celebrate.
There are many divorced Christians who never planned on or wanted to be divorced. In this case, divorce doesn’t feel like liberty. Instead, it can feel like a death. I have known divorced Christians who spoke of the end of their marriage in just that kind of way… “when I lost my husband…”
Is your grief out of season?
There will be a season of grief and sorrow that follows an unwanted divorce. but eventually, when we know we have done all we can do. When we have found peace through Christ. Then we must move on. If we refuse to move on our grief will be out of season and instead of embracing liberty we will be accepting a yoke of bondage from the enemy.
But what is this freedom for? And why should it be celebrated?
The freedom that comes from being a single Christian is a unique opportunity to serve Christ in whatever way he leads you. It’s an opportunity to really put Jesus first and to learn of him. And it’s an opportunity to experience His love, his provisions and his presence in a way that is unique and expressed specifically just for you.
Anytime you are a part of a family – whether you are a child, a parent or a spouse- your moments of experiencing God are usually family oriented. But when you are living single you experience God singly and uniquely tailored just for you, and that is certainly something to celebrate.
Anytime you have liberty there will be others who envy that.
While you may sit on a pew during a Sunday morning worship service struggling to keep from coveting the life of the family in front of you; you can be sure that somewhere there is a married parent who will momentarily look at you and long to have the freedom you have. Freedom to follow the Lord without having to get the family ready and drag them along too. So knowing that others would (sometimes) love to be in your position don’t waste your freedom, using it as a reason to sin.
In 1 Corinthians Chapter 7, Paul addresses some of the questions of marriage. Early in the chapter, he says that he would like it if every man were as Paul himself was. Paul was unmarried and not struggling with his unmarried status. And he expressed that he would like to see all unmarried Christians be content to put the ministry of God first.
Later in 1 Corinthians Chapter 7, Paul goes on to explain that the married person must be concerned about the things of the world and how they serve their spouse. He also explains that the unmarried person can concern themselves with serving the Lord wholeheartedly. 1 Corinthians Chapter 7
Whether you will remain unmarried or go on to marry is a decision that is between you and God. But no matter if your singleness is for a lifetime or a short time, the only way to have true peace while living single is to embrace it for what it is.
What is the liberty of living single?
Your singleness is an opportunity to freely serve and know God. In a way that married people are unable to do. So singleness, when embraced, can become a gift. It should never be thought of as a curse.However, we can bring bondage on ourselves if we abuse our freedom and serve our flesh instead of God.
If we take the liberty we have to seek God and instead use it to seek things that concern on our flesh – our sinful nature, we will soon find that our liberty is being stolen from us.
Always searching for a new relationship can leave us exhausted and depleted. With no time or energy left to seek Jesus. And chasing after relationships that seem to offer promises that never come to pass can be even worse. These empty promises can leave us feeling confused and depressed. And can hinder our desire to seek God.
God never wants us to follow after something that is not his will for us. And when we are doing that our relationship with him will suffer. It is hard to have intimate communion (the sharing or exchanging of intimate thoughts and feelings,) with the Lord when He wants you to go one way and you want to go another.
There is a bondage that comes with false and bad relationships. These false relationships leave us feeling like we always need to fix them or we’re going to lose them. And that can be a vicious freedom-stealing cycle.
Where the spirit of the Lord is there is freedom.
2 Corinthians 3:17 tells us that where the Spirit of the Lord is there is freedom. If you are a single or divorced Christian I encourage you to embrace the freedom the God has given you. The freedom to seek after Him and grow to know and serve him as never before. Don’t allow the bondages of self-seeking behavior to steal this precious gift from you. Don’t allow the bondages of false relationships to keep you from the true Love of your life – Jesus!
As we approach this Fourth of July, the celebration of America’s freedom, take hold of your own freedoms in Christ Jesus. Seek to know and serve him freely and fully. If you are a single or divorced Christian I hope I have convinced you that the freedom you have, in Christ, to follow and serve Him, wholeheartedly, is a beautiful thing to celebrate.